Fantastic post, OP. That stream was an unmitigated disaster of epic proportions.
Every time there's an update, I regret more and more having paid for the game, and I kick myself for clearing Steam's 2 hour return policy threshold. My complaints, most of which you share, can't just be answered away by the ever-popular "It's early access!" response. There's a lack of vision and focus here that have little to do with how early in the process the game is. At this point, I'm actually hoping that this goes the way of Cyberpunk 2077 and that I can get a South Park style "We're sorry" apology refund because it ends up as a complete failure.
I don't want to fall to bits 'cos of excess existential thought.