Thank you. I'm not alone. This system is an exploit you can't opt out of using. And even if you try to stay ohnnest. The AI doesn't care.
For this reason I abandoned positioning my party members during dialogs. What the point? When you are not the first in initiative, enemies start running around notising stealthed party members.
The buble that pulls you in combat, should be much large than it is now (at leest 200 feet larger). And it absolutely must pull in every single character, no matter whether they even can fight.