Total get what OP is saying and agree with most of it, but you're forgetting Larian's limitations. Larian is building this game on a modified engine of their previous engine.
For Larian's platform, some things are just not possible. A lot of things that are being requested in this thread and otherwise are, quite frankly, never going to happen with this release because of the constriction of the engine.
And I don't think Larian quite realized that either until they started making the game and trying to implement things. Patches are slower than advertised, full of bugs, and lots of modifications are taken on implementing things because they have to conform to their engine.
Reactions like Solasta isn't possible with Larian unless they re-designed an entire platform meant for DnD 5e and not their previous games, which would set development back years. They are going to move forward with what they have and make it work.
The masses will love it, the fanatics that are on the forum and/or Reddit will not. It's just time to face reality and stop wishing for things that aren't going to happen.
I have no idea what the DOS engine is or isn’t capable of implementing. Larian hasn’t officially stated anything of the sort. But I’m not holding my breath and in general agree with you.
What I won’t be is an apologist for Larian for their lack of foresight or incompetence.
You are correct. This game is for the masses and will be an outstanding story and dating simulator. But as someone who paid for the game hoping for something else (that Larian implied they were going to do their best), I will vent my dissatisfaction and still offer suggestions which like you said will most likely not happen.