Sadly it would never work as good if everyone would still be playersexual. How about this? Adding racial and sexual preferences ... but not to decline to our characters that particular romance completely, but simply delay it for later ... after all, we have only seen part of Act 1 ... i bet it should never end with one-night adventure ... So while some Elf girl would lay Gale first night ... Dwarf (fe-)male will have some bro-drinking scene ... and have to wait for that hot night to another romance scene. :P
Actually, being slower with the romances all around wouldn't be a bad idea, moving many of them to Act 2 could not hurt at all and would allow for more room to develop relationships so it feels more realistic for say Shadowheart to romance a Gith or Gale to romance when he still has that little bit of obsession with a goddess. Would allow for adding more bonding scenes cause most everyone seems to get around one (maybe two?) scenes that could have a romantic subtext before you are flung into afterparty sex.
