Nah. My preference is what you suggested, Custom Difficulty. That would be, hands down, the best solution that would make everyone happy.
My Game Mode suggestions is more like, "Please at the very least give me something. If Custom Difficulty is too hard, or you really feel that the current cheese factory we have is what a lot of players actually want, at least give me something." Shoot! I'd settle for even just 2 Difficulty Settings: Larian Homebrew Mode and 5e Mode.
The point is that there does seem to be enough people who like the system as is or at least similar, so fine. Let them have their quasi DOS gameplay. Just, at least, let me have something better.
I got back to spider lair. The fight was ridiculous, and I'd forgotten just how bad it was. And the amount of issues I had trying to play by something close to 5e rules... So frustrating. It's as someone said in one of the other posts. You can't really even play close to 5e even if you try because your enemies are cheesing the rules so hard.
I mean, one playthrough, a phase spider just let my Drow Fighter sit there at a distance and continue to fire at it and kill it just because somehow she was stealthing it from higher ground. Combat didn't even start until it died.
Even still, Mama Spider just one taps two of my level 4 characters in one spew of poison, both my Drow Fighter and Lae'zel. Just ports across the board, spews her poison, bye 40 something hit points. Then she hits my ranger and same. One taps.
Then the opposite happened. Another playthrough, her babies just sat there the whole time doing nothing. They just let us kill Mama. We got her down to her rage moment, and then she went all psycho and killed my team anyway in like one round.
It's so unbalanced. One minute I'm wailing on everything and killing everything so easily. The next...Im dead. I get that RNG can do that, but there is too much of that right now because the game is not given a proper rule structure. It's all over the place.
Anyway, so Custom Dif is my preferred with maybe preset Modes. At the very least, though, give me too modes:
1. Larian HB Mode
2. True 5e Mode
I will bet you, though, that if they started with True 5e Mode and THEN tweaked it a little, they'd balance the whole dang game real fast. They wouldn't even really need d if settings.