1) No, but you can join the good fight here: https://forums.larian.com/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=679414#Post679414 (and before anyone asks, yes, it's the same topic at its core. I just take it from a larger point of view).
2) What OcO said.

Party control in Baldur's Gate 3 is a complete mess that begs to be addressed. SAY NO TO THE TOILET CHAIN