For example Astarion is just an in your face overly feminine man, Astarions content that is being written for him is just so woke it isnt funny. I mean why do this?
Also why have cut-scenes that when you camp at night your male npcs want to sleep with you if you are a male PC? This kind of stuff is also being overly represented. Just to clarify i have no problems at all with anyone who is LGQBT, literately at all. The issue i have is that i can tell that Larian is making a huge effort to put this woke stuff in my face. They need to tone is down as myself and most people play video games to escape the real world and politics. I dont want to see politics in video games. Please Larian tone this stuff down.
Also the writing absolutely needs to be darker. Dont try and pander to all age groups and gender and racial groups just write what you want!!!!!! leave politics out of the game!!
The funny thing is any of the companions will sleep with ANYBODY, regardless of race, or gender. It's kind of a running joke. Ironically its the complete opposite of woke as it disregards sexuality as a core part of identity completely. A "woke" perspective on sexuality would say that sexuality isn't a choice.
NOW - having said that I agree that the companions are way too aggressive in trying to initiate sex with you. They push for it, putting you in the position of having to reject them. It kind of takes away agency of you maybe choosing not to flirt with them at all.
For myself I consider these to be my co-workers and I really don't want to get involved in inter-office(campsite) drama. Just not good for moral.

On top of that they all get up in your business if you do start flirting with anyone and starting acting all jealous - and I am like "Excuse me GALE - but first off I am not Gay so you don't have a chance, and second even if I was what makes you think I would be interested in a guy who looks like a Bad Discount Bin Burt Reynolds!"
So, I hate to criticize Larian because I love those crazy Belgians, but this comes off as - lets call it "writing below the standard I expect from them".
Now as to darker - I think you are referring to the patented "Larian" sense of humor. You should have seen DOS1 - omfg, wall to wall cornyness.

In their defense they have moved away from it, but everything still gets a little glaze of it...
Because - funny enough - the content is quit dark if you tally up the themes. see below:
we have:
Genocide
Torture
Cannibalism
Slavery
Whatever is going on with Volo and that Goblin.
Forced impregnation (the tadpole - its a kind of alien violation of your body - see the movie Alien)
Kidnapping
Murder
Theft
Debauchery
Alcoholism
Racism
baby eating
Which is pretty dark stuff. Of course it would help if we had day/night cycles to help set the mood better but that's a WHOLE 'nother argument.