I think the visual and the mechanics for me would be tied, or rather what I mean is I want both to be toned back. Visually and mechanically for it to not send people flying. Perhaps have the distance calculated based off strength score or something for this homebrew, but for most characters it is kinda ridiculous to be able to send someone THAT far. (That and if Mage Hand must have shove, which I don't want it to, it should be a lot weaker of a shove than a fighter doing it. )