This is kinda crazy. I can't believe we're still discussing Minthara's hair and saying that she is Drow, therefore, her hair must be long and not cropped short because she's a Drow.
You're missing the real argument for the fake one. The bottom line is people want her to look sexy, and short hair on women isn't sexy (according to the people upset). the lore is just an excuse to try to justify themselves preferring a very specific definition of attractive for women. I wouldn't overthink it past that if i were you
