You can not gain any sort of friendship with the shadow druids. Even if you are a Druid yourself and wanted to becoem a shadow druid, they would still kill you because of the Tadpole.
Shadow Druids are extremists that are so set in they ways that they will even destroy nature to "save" it. Theeir magic more often than not actually damages the exo-system itself. They are eco fundamentalistic strawmen with powerful magic. They are antagonistic to their very core.
They think every form of civilization, even the most basic forms, are an attack on nature that must be destroyed.
They go beyond evil druid. Only under very specific situations will they tolerate any (n)pc otherwise they *will* be hostile.
That was only a suggestion, since I was a bit pissed that op again wanted a trophy waifu (like he does with Minthara). I was suggesting that the reward doesn't have to bang the girl (which I find rather unimaginative), but maybe an interesting storyline along the way. This is a rpg and not a dating sim after all.
As someone who actually likes Dating Sims (though I have not played any in a while) I have to agree to your statement, mostly.
A good DS will give every hero(ine) a good reason to fall in love with the protagonist. Random one-night stands are common in porn-focused games and are usually avoided in well written ones. Few well written ones even have any sort of harem ending, forcing you to be focused on *one* person.
And, I want to add, I started to get into dating sims partly because of BG2. (So, blame the author for Aerie for that =P)
