I'm a gay female irl and have no problems romancing a male character in a game, if I think, it leads to an interesting storyline. I seldom base my romance options on my personal preferences (although I do prefer Shadowheart from the companions we have now, but she is just the one, I like the most as a character). Why is it such a problem, if a male character ask you for sex? Simply say 'No', problem solved. My favorite romance in Dragon Age Inquisition was Iron Bull btw. And he was a gender, I don't prefer, a religion/philosophy, I don't really care for and I didn't think, I would even like him, when the comapnions were announced. Since then, I keep an open mind.
I do agree that it is really annoying and not very realistic, that all companions, no matter how they like you, make advances at the same time. That bit is creepy, but I do hope, that they change that
