I actually really like Ragnarok's suggestion here, about the NPCs having canonical preferences that alter how they react and respond, while still ultimately being open to being pursued. It think that's the kernel of a really good compromise.
Thank you! I sended that to suggestions from launcher ... so it dont get lost ... Fingers crossed.
I still dont understand why cant we change Race for our hirelings. Lets us play Githyanki as racist as they trully are!