1. Your tadpole is definitely different, like an alpha male/female tadpole. Notice how yours essentially influences everyone else's whether friend or foe. So, yours is more powerful and therefore likely more a part of you.
There is one small problem. Our tadpoles ARE different, we can order some others infected BUT those parasites are definetly not Alpha. Beta or smth around that, but Alpha were in goblin's leaders, Absolute told to obey them, and if it wasn't for gityanki's box - we would obey. And Absolute would feel quality of our tadpoles - she doesn't treat us as smth valuable, just another portion of slaves.
Also for influencing - as we can influence friends - they can too. They do have same powers. It wasn't shown yet if they try it on us, as far as I have been, but that rifle on the wall must be ready to shoot.
