The question I'd ask would be: What have you done to earn or cause that?
I don't ask the person I love what they did to earn my love.
...completely de-characterises the dangerous drow into your helpless wet-mop adoring love puppy?
Minthara is not a worse person for finding love, nor does it make her helpless or a puppy. Everything I wrote spoke of equality and partnership, not submission.
It would be nice, perhaps, if the sequence in question reflected that in some way - unfortunately, it does not, in any way: that, too, is part of the issue.
We disagree. I think that does come across in the scene.
