Meh seriously after the PTSD, here is another theory to explain something that does not make any sense.
Once again like in many threads, when the story of BG3 lack of coherence people are crafting theory in their head to explain what is not possible to explain.
When people have to imagine things in their head for such details... There's really something going wrong.
It makes perfect sense that he's used to giving orders to more people. This isn't bending over backwards mental gymnastics.
If anything, I feel like people are bending over backwards trying to find reasons to hate.