Yeah, I typically play CHA classes(I prefer spontaneous spellcasters for example) and feel locked in to half elves and Drow. And I can't make av Drow look how i want because there's not enough skin colors in the true black/Grey range. It's all weird shades of lichen blue/Grey or purple.
You NEED 16 in primary stat. I hate uneven stats, too. Not enough for the next modifier feels bad.
Funny enough it bugs me too to no end. It is a wasted stat point unless it is in dex/str and only if you take a perk that gives a +1 in those stats. If you go +2 at level 4 you will always be -1 from one of your saving throws. Some races are worse than others. I always try and fiddle so they are all even even if it means having wonky stats for the class.