Let me be clear here. Just beacuse I don't think the game feels like DnD it doesn't mean that I don't like it. In fact I like BG3 very much. I like it in spite of it not feeling like DnD, and I like it in spite of the awful party control mechanics. So when people say "Oh well there are thousands of players out there who is having a blast with the game so they must all think that BG3 feels just like DnD" I think that statement is a bit disingenuous. They may very well, just like me, be having a blast with the game in spite of it not feeling like a DnD game.
Well said, and much appreciated that you make this point.