I disagree with nothing that you said and I do play Shadowheart with crossbow and dagger, but do you have any objections against having the option of custom ability scores? Yeah, I am guilty of min-maxing, sure. I do it on my main. Does it bother you that I play that way?
But it´s not just about min-maxing for me. Sometimes I like to try stupid stuff like putting a two-handed sword on a wizard or plate mail on a warlock and neither Wyll nor Gale has enough strength for that...