In my games:
If I can choose a main char in party/single = female, preferably mage/paladin.

If I can't (Summoner), then my sympathies go to a female party char (Rosalind).
In BG2 I eliminated all males except Minsc (Boo is so sweet) and Yoshimo/Keldorn for a while - saved me the trouble of all this love quarreling stuff.
In BG1 I had Minsc and Khalid, rest were females.
In NWN I had a main female char(rogue/paladin) and the male monk was my favourite co-char.
In Wiz8 I had 2 males in my party IIRC.
Morrowind = female

It depends on the game, some males are so cute, I keep them, depends on my sympathy or the main plot.

So to answer you question:
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can be male or female OR you meet females?

Main char female, if possible and meeting gender depends on my sympathy/main plot needs.