As far as I recall, romance already is only started by the player.

  • Lae'zel openly wants just sexual pleasure and doesn't matter with whom. If you reject her, she says she will find someone else to satisfy her. So it's not you in particular she wants, anyone will do.
  • Astarion is drinking and in sort of a whatever mood, so he requires specific dialogue options to even suggest wanting to be intimate and if you say the wrong thing it's gone.
  • Shadowheart is in high spirits, but somewhat shy and only indulges in the idea of intimacy if you ask her properly. She even considers the idea of a threesome with Lae'zel, but leaves it for another day as a possibility.
  • Gale is completely uncertain whether he still has any feelings for Mystra or not, as he expresses through his conversations. This will most likely be influenced by the player's choices in the full game and who he ends up truly loving.


When I was playing around all of the possible outcomes, I chose to remain friendly and the conversations remained just friendly banter. So I didn't get the feeling like they're trying so hard to be intimate with me, in fact I had to try hard to be intimate with them... with the exception of Lae'zel, who is as straight as an arrow with her desires.

And yes, they mention after you've apparently chosen someone for intimacy that there might have been something between you, but as I said, they're the inquisitive type just being playful with ideas and thoughts... especially Astarion. And it's honestly not the first time they're poking their noses into your business. Shadowheart does it quite often in the camp with other conversations.

I personally found this thing amazing that they're not just poking their noses into my relationship, but also offering some interesting scenarios too. I was honestly impressed seeing so many different conversations depending on who I chose. To me that is not something that makes me question the story or consistency of the characters, but rather become impressed by how varied the story can become based on my choices.