+1 to the OP.
There are several threads where people suggest "if we cannot get proper reactions (or something else) they should change x instead".
No, there is a solution, it works, its written in the PHB and it works in several computer games.
In Solasta I never had a problem to answer "Do you want to use AoO/shield/counterspell/etc now?"
You have to select tons of stuff anyway.
I like to have full control over what my chars are doing.

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