but realistically speaking how do you communicate with people who wish to turn BG3 into BG1 and 2? How do you communicate with DnD enthusiasts who nitpick about every adjustment that doesn't follow DnD? How do you communicate with people who are not trying to improve the game, but make it into something else entirely? You simply don't

Because no matter what you do, it will never be enough and by indulging one side, you will make the other angry. And by acknowledging one, you will make everyone demand the same.