I'm fairly sure the who you're attracted to bit is a manifestation of the tadpole playing mindtricks in the brain of ours that it's inhabiting, trying to be attractive to its host for later unrevealed narrative purposes.
First time I booted up BGIII I made a half-elf with long black hair, green eyes and was hoping for scars. Image how hard I started giggling when I met shadowheart on the beach.
