The person's wish for the game is implied in the simple statement, "Shove is supposed to be" or "should be" an action because they wouldn't be saying it if they didn't wish that it was true.
But it's completely off topic and irrelevant to the topic. Ragnarok is actually right on this one, as much as you wanna play the but but but game. Continue and thread closes. The poll and title thereafter asks if the player is playing BG3 the way they want to (and nuances of how much the game incentivizes/goes against that, though sadly not a neutral option of just "Yes" which would be me.), not about anything else but whether or not I'm playing the game the way I wish I would.
Not every topic is about what you and I probably both would agree upon being unnecessary changes to 5e adoption to video game. That's not the thread's proposition. So stop insisting it is.