I didnt read the whole topic ...
But i take the liberty to presume (based on few i have read) that debate slipped to standard shove = bad -> need fix.
I just wanted to say that since Larian obviously presume that some (and it dont really matter how many) people likes shove as it is ... this is perfect ... maybe even prime example of things that can be easily fixed by options in settings.
Thats all i had on my chest, please return to your arguing.

Potentially this is a thing that can't be simply fixed by options in settings though, since Larian makes use of a learning AI to govern enemy behavior.
If the default game-mode has SuperShove, the AI will (and clearly has) learn strategies that depend on it. So if Shove is changed to an action, reduced in distance, etc, then that might break the AI behavior. E.g., the AI could default to using Action-Shove to no effect.