Hmm. normally I would also belong to the crowd that advocates for distinct racial differences, otherwise, why have races at all? But, considering that the game already allows us to create drow with the fairest skin on earth and almost any hair and eye color we could wish for, which definitely goes against lore, I see no reason for why someone shouldn't be able to also give elves a beard, or shave a dwarf. That said, it should, like the extra skin colors, be a drop down option or a box to tick so that players know that it doesn't belong to the lore friendly versions of characteristics.
It is necessary to adhere to the edge of what is permissible in changes.
For example, no matter what color of skin and hair you choose, you will still understand by the elegance of facial features and sharp ears that this is an elf. Dark or light is still a question, but still an elf. Because elves DON'T HAVE beards. Never. And so you create a character who has a beard and IT's still called an elf - why?
People correctly write that if you want to have a beard and pointed ears, please play as a half-elf. Yes, the racial bonuses will be different, but this is the dnd system and in particular BG3.
I'm just a little horrified to imagine how after the start of the game there will be a lot of videos where there will be supposedly a bearded elf created "for fun", for the sake of content, lulz and other things, which is now popular, and all this will be massively distributed on the Internet, as the face of the game....
No, I definitely would not want such advertising of BG3 and dnd system to see in our reality.
