It does make sense and I get your argument for sure. I would even say you're basically right, but I guess for whatever reason that stuff you're describing from BG3 just doesn't appeal to my preferred method of roleplaying. I don't care about combat very much in games, Sometimes I even turn the difficulty way down and just mow through mobs. To me, the fights are potentially enjoyable interludes between the real roleplaying, the places where I make big decisions that define my character, where I have conversations with companions and secondary characters I find interesting. I think that for me, the decisions we make in BG3 just don't feel important. They don't feel like things that define my character and who they are the way decisions in Pathfinder do. Most things that aren't conversation feels like something I the player figured out, not my character. Maybe I've just been spoiled by games like Pathfinder and PoE, where basically every choice comes in the form of dialogue boxes, so if it's not in dialogue boxes, it doesn't feel like it counts/is really in character. Because while I can easily understand a charcter seeing the ambush at the village and doubling around to ambush them, because there's no acknowledgement from the game (text boxes) it feels like an out of world thing to me, like a lot of the potential solutions to encounters.
To me the REAL variety in pathfinder games is in the decisions I make outside of combat, and the little and big reactions those cause. I played as a dwarven monk who worshipped torrag in one playthrough, and in an early scripted set piece battle, my character actually got blessed by Torrag (I'm not sure if it was because I was worshipping him, because I was a dwarf, or both) and my skin became like rock. In my most recent playthrough, I was a dhampir cleric of the goddess of death, Pharasma. And twice when I pushed back against undead, my goddess sent her sacred animal to show her approval and gave me a blessing that actually provided a stat boost. Also, a vampire tavern owner slipped me several potions of negative energy because as a damphir I can't heal from actual healing potions. That stuff is what REALLY matters to me in the game, and nothing BG3 has shown so far comes even close in my estimation.
