I don’t get your argument; classes, races, fighting have always been an integral part of playing D&D CRPGs so one would expect to find them in the game…are you suggesting graphic sex is as an integral part? Do people who play tabletop D&D roleplay in graphic detail sexual relationships or orgies during their campaigns? I genuinely don’t know because I never played it.
Where did I ever state there wouldn’t be a brothel or sex in Faerun? There was a brothel in BG2, nobody is disputing that they don’t exist in D&D world. I just don’t feel you need to have vivid depictions of a blow job to somehow reveal some profound insight into a character.
I haven’t played the game in a long time but I do recall being propositioned by my companions from very early on with minimal interactions. I wasn’t forced to engage with it but it was very much shoved in my face from the outset. Perhaps that has changed in recent patches?
Shoved in your face as in Lae'zel propositioning you? That happens in the real world, and you're free to refuse. No one is forcing you to go to the sex mausoleum.
If sex exists in Toril, and we the player are taking on the roles of people who live in Toril, and another character wants to have sex with our character, and we choose to have sex with them, why is it a problem if the player gets to see their choice? You're basically arguing we don't need graphic depictions of violence. I don't need vivid depictions of decapitation to somehow reveal profound insight into a character.
Plenty of RPGs exist that lack character creation, class choices, and race choices. The Witcher is one of the most popular of them. We could easily have been given a predefined character with a narrow selection of choices and minimal dialog choices, and it would still meet the technical definition of an RPG.
And finally, how groups play D&D is entirely up to the table and what the players are comfortable with. Some groups don't want any hint of romance whatsoever, and it's nothing but combat mechanics and quest objectives, with little to no role playing. There are groups that do lite romance, but never elaborate. I've seen tables do grand romances that develop through campaigns, and offspring of the romance become replacement characters when the older ones retire, and you can absolutely find erp groups that have graphic descriptions of sex acts in their sessions. D&D is what you make it, and there's room for both celibate paladins and horny bards in it.
