the first time you use the tabpole triggers the "where are you" at next rest... you must use it again to trigger the Lae'zel attack and get sick
after that you can use it once more to get the 'lests not do that again" scenes + not using the tabpole = you don't get these but some of the other cut sences 'assume' you did
p.s, all these cut scenes give you options to gain or lose points with your party but most of the outcomes are pretty obvious
