I can respect that the OP wants real time (with pause). that is what they enjoy. I personally love turn based and am thrilled that BG3 will be this.
And I don't think that "it's 2023" has anything to do with it. So long as there is an audience, and I definitely am part of that audience, I personally hope that game developers continue to make turn based games far into the future.
This like maximum. In recent few years I have moved from gaming in dedicated set where all is tip top to couch where I do not even have mouse mat. Any real time or fps or such game do not work. I have found new appreciation towards properly made turn based games. They are so mich more enjoyable in my own pace instead of constant ”pressure”.