I can respect that the OP wants real time (with pause). that is what they enjoy. I personally love turn based and am thrilled that BG3 will be this.
And I don't think that "it's 2023" has anything to do with it. So long as there is an audience, and I definitely am part of that audience, I personally hope that game developers continue to make turn based games far into the future.
This like maximum. In recent few years I have moved from gaming in dedicated set where all is tip top to couch where I do not even have mouse mat. Any real time or fps or such game do not work. I have found new appreciation towards properly made turn based games. They are so mich more enjoyable in my own pace instead of constant ”pressure”.
I feel this totally. My GF and I like to co-op play a relaxed yet immersive game. DOS games were great for this. We could play together and explore, combat, progress the story...until one of us (her ;-) ) eventually got too tired to play. Then I could continue on my own, going back over already explored areas or mostly crafting, selling, buying, crafting...until our next session together.
Like when we were playing Red Dead Online, it wasn't intense and a constant adrenaline rush like many people like, but still immersive and highly enjoyable. Plus, when we couldn't play together, either one of us could hop on and "do our dailys" sometimes for both of us.
Many people these days just don't appreciate slowing down and enjoying something at a leisurely pace.
