Originally Posted by robertthebard
They agree to follow you, because of the tadpole. [...] The tadpole moments provide a reason to work together, you know, removing it.

I'm curious why you've been treating "We should travel together" as a phrase synonymous to "I'll follow you and defer to your decisions". Those are two different statements with two different meanings. The tadpole provides a reason for everyone to travel together and work together; everyone agrees with and acknowledges that (meaning everyone involved in this discussion thread). What it does not do, however, is provide a reason for the main character being thrust into the leading and decision-making role. Shadowheart saying "We should travel together" is not a synonym for her declaring you the leader and agreeing to put her opinions secondary to your decisions. Wyll saying "We should team up" is not a synonym for that either, nor Gale's "You and I need to find a healer" (indeed Gale's dialogue, given his personality, comes off very much as him assuming the leadership role). The tadpole is an element that everyone shares equally, at the moment - there is no internal story beat that pushes the player controlled character (whether that be an origin character or a custom one) into the leading position, to justify or explain the deference that they all drop into counter to their various self-directed and headstrong personalities. That's one of the things that numerous people here have found jarring and damaging for immersion - and a thing that most other games in this genre make some degree of effort to address.