Hi. I apologize for my English - it's not my native language. Faced in the game with the same problem as you. Played as a host with a girlfriend. We played 40 hours and only reached the romance with Astarion. The girlfriend has a dialogue with him and they agreed on a night together. We go to bed for a long rest and suddenly Astarion comes to me, not to her. It was unexpected and unpleasant.And I wanted to know if you were able to find out in almost a year - is this a bug or the original idea of the Larians? Or some other topics with a solution to this problem. It's not very pleasant to play like this from the social side of roleplaying.