I confess I ran out of steam I think around half way through Kingmaker, despite the fact that there was loads about it that I liked. I found the timed quests stressful, but the thing that finished me off was a couple of areas with loads of fights with generic enemies that took absolutely ages and lots of micromanagement. I think the final straw was an area with tons of electricity spamming wisps.
I suspect part of my problem was that my characters weren’t built very well, as while I found the interface that showed class progression to help with levelling up was very good (hopefully the BG3 full release will have something similar), the sheer variety was bewildering and I probably made some poor multi-classing decisions not knowing the ruleset. And reading this thread I may not have been doing enough pre buffing either.
But thanks to suggestions here, I might give it another go and just crank the difficulty down to make it less frustrating!
"You may call it 'nonsense' if you like, but I've heard nonsense, compared with which that would be as sensible as a dictionary!"