OK, my first try to explain / answering the initial thread headline question was
apperantly too complex, too "loaded" this ll be my second try, lets see how that goes aye?

Onwards to the answer i gave.

No it is absolutely not worth it to have identity options in the character creation, i mena AT ALL

Why? Because the setting we talk here is dark fantasy medieval one, pronouns is the last thing this game needs.

Now, instead of JUST going nay nay here, there is also an opportunity (not that it ll matter not for ppl demanding social media madness)

Instead of making this a main game option, how about you give the players a free mini DLC?

or even better

How about you even make it more complex to explain WHY this kind of addressing is in fearun now hm?
By not only bringing the social media pronouns with the DLC but an according RACE as well? A NEW race.

Don't latch such things on existing concepts and characters / races that always have been (uhhggg) "classic"
This will only lead on the path of destruction, because for ppl dwelling on this kind of insanity, it is never enough.

Several examples have already proven that in the past few years, alongside dying franchises that did bend down to this kind of stuff.
So...
Fine lets have the pronouns for players who want them aye?
Make it a free DLC and even better make a complete new race that uses those pronouns to give it more depth? Aye?
Like dunno... a plant based one, that never thought in categories like HE or SHE? Make this a complete optional DLC
extern from the main Baldurs Gate 3 game and everybody can have their cake and eat it as well.

The way Larian go now, just drives me off, because when seeing this tiny itzy bitzy "addition" in the CC it reminds me of
the sad reality we are in, dragging me out of the game, ruining the mood, so to say.

So yes again, its not worth at all having pronouns in the game at all

Fearun has no social media madness
Fearun needs no social media madness

o7