I can see both sides: I agree that Lae’zel’s abrasiveness is a large part of her charm, but also that the degree to which she’s rude doesn’t actually make much practical sense given she does want allies, and teaming up with her does involve roleplaying either a certain amount of eye-rolling tolerance or teeth-gritted acceptance that the githyanki are a good lead for dealing with the tadpole.
I’m not a big fan of Shadowheart’s change of personality from the early patches when taken at face value, and hope it turns out she’s every bit as contemptuous as ever but has learnt to hide it better, which would actually make more sense for a manipulative Sharran than alienating people she wants to use for her own ends. And while that level of deviousness wouldn’t make sense for Lae’zel, I do think there are places where it would make more sense for her to compromise or keep her mouth shut. But as a player I’d miss her snark, so I’d prefer she’s left as is than that she’s toned down too far.
Or, picking up on Gray Ghost’s point, perhaps she should just dump the party and head off to the creche if we don’t follow her lead within an acceptable timescale.
For the full game, I think we can expect more strength based characters, like Karlach and Minsc, so we won’t be as reliant on Lae’zel if we want a warrior type in our party, giving Larian more flexibility to take her out of our party if that makes narrative sense.
