I suggested Divinity 2 as I just got it and have enjoyed it. She bought it, tried it, and has really been dissatisfied with, basically in her words, almost everyone in the game are a-hole d-bags. She really doesn't like any of the characters and then most of the NPCs and just stopped playing the game.
My impression is that the characterisation trends and styles are very much in line with what you experienced with Divinity - Everyone has that same standoff-ish defensive and insulting personality baseline; they may all have personalities beyond that, but they are for the most part all that same sort of rude, something-to-prove type of character who will tend towards insulting you in order to feel like they've got the upper hand, and the inclination to treat every dialogue exchange as a competition to be 'won', or to find a chance to advertise their superiority. It's everywhere, in almost everyone, with very few exceptions and with a moderate does of passive racism mixed in, which you usually have no recourse to object to or pull them up on.
That was my experience with Divinity, and it's been a repeat performance here as well. The writers of divinity games, and now BG3 seem to think that this is the normal baseline starting point of all people, with extremely rare few exceptions.
