Yep, definitely a matter of taste
. My impression is different from Niara's, except for agreeing with the fact that we too often don't have the chance to come back when someone is rude to us. But I personally don't experience three out of five of the companions (Wyll, Gale and Shadowheart) as standoffish or insulting as long as my character isn't intrusive or rude (ie an asshole) to them. If I play a character who pesters them with questions they don't trust me enough to answer or does things they've made clear they won't like - like try to read their minds - then relations can break down, but in my view that feels reasonable enough. But, that said, if your daughter didn't like the characters in Divinity and Niara has played both and thinks the BG3 characters are similar, then your daughter's tastes may be more like Niara's than mine!
(When you say Divinity 2, do you mean exactly that, by the way, or are you talking about Divinity: Original Sin 2?)
