Any sexual relations between an animal / person isn't acceptable.
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It's extremely inappropriate, and no amount of magic / fantasy / video game can defend a literal pornographic scene between a human and animal.
As far as I'm concerned that's a "real" bear that sodomized Astarion, which fits the definition of bestiality. In my opinion the fact that it's bestiality but without the moral baggage makes it more problematic, not less.
Why?
Hear me out.
It's easy enough to jump up an vehemently shout 'bestiality is
Wrong!!. Wrong's a pretty subjective term, so the next thing you've got to do is ask... Okay; what makes it wrong? Why do you feel that it's wrong? What are the problems? You can do this, and most people who jumped up to shout that first statement will happily give you several answer.
So... Why? I'm not being condescending or facetious here: Articulate for me why this thing is wrong.
Now; once you've done that and ordered it in your mind, and have all your reasons lined up, the next question is this one:
Are those reasons present and relevant in this situation? Are they really?
Because if they aren't, we come back to asking... well... Why is this situation wrong then?
If the reasons are not present and relevant, then we have to reasonably conclude that, actually, it's not in this case.
To say that the action, without its harm or problems, makes it even worse is a reaction I've seen to many things, but as natural as it feels to those making the statement, it's also deeply irrational. The reasoning often goes something like this:
“This thing, it is the vilest most terrible thing, and we cannot allow it”
“We can have this thing, but without the things that make it vile and terrible.”
“But don't you see, that's even worse!”
“How so?”
“Why... because if those things that make it vile and terrible are not there, then we'd have to allow it, and that's just too vile to even think of”
“Why can't we?”
“Because it's vile and terrible, of course – that's plain to see!”
It's an understandable feeling based in strong impulse, but it's not rational.
“I find that gross” is not a valid reason to call something wrong. Lots of people find lots of different things gross.
“It's portraying animal abuse in a positive light” would be a valid reason, but it's not the case here, because there is no abuse; only the actions of sapient beings who understand what they are doing and are doing it willingly.
“It's just wrong, darnit; it's patently obvious that it's wrong, isn't it? We all know it's wrong.” Is also not a valid reason; it's not obvious, and without justification, it's not justified.
“It will incite people to commit abuse!” is not justified; if it were, then so too would all the depictions of violence and murder be 'wrong' in the same way. Fictional and fantasy outlets do not cause or increase people's likelihood of committing crimes; that's a long disproved fallacy. In fact, it's rather the opposite – having fictional and fantastical outlets to explore concepts, and impulses in a safe way that harms no-one has been show to actively decrease the likelihood of individuals with those impulses or desires attempting to act on them in ways that can cause real harm.
“I feel very strongly that real-life bestiality is wrong, and this makes me feel like I'm watching/condoning/accepting that behaviour, so this must be wrong too.” is an understandable and emotional reaction, but it's not grounded or rooted in anything tangible. Exploring the roleplay of doing something that you would never do, and never
want anyone else to do, is not the action itself, and it's not even encouraging the action or condoning it in any way – it's exploring a concept in a safe space, which is a large part of what social roleplay games do, and it's okay. Sensible folks won't judge you for it, and the people who would aren't worth listening to.
If a thing makes to feel unwell, sullied or revolted to think about, you can explore what about it does so, and why, and learn something about yourself, in a safe and healthy way; that's part of why rolepaying games are wonderful things.
Look; if either of my partners could magically shapeshift into different forms, you can darn well bet that we would experiment with that in the bedroom at some point... would you condemn us for that? Would you try to tell me that it's wrong, or that we shouldn't? If so... Why? And, beyond that question, what right would you claim to have to do so, when what we do is between us alone and involves no-one else?
Larian have put the bear and the twink behind a door in a hotel; what they do there is their own business, and it's harming no-one who is not fully understanding and consenting to it. You can choose to look through the keyhole and see what they're doing – heck you can even oculus in to the twink's contact lenses and get a first-person view, if you want to... but you can't legitimately denounce or condemn them for existing, any more than you have a right to in the above example of my partners and I.
So... if the pixels on the screen that we were shown are 'wrong'... Why?