Even though a few of my favorite games are RtwP, I pretty much agree. By and large it’s just not good. Pillars of Eternity taught me that. I thought I really wanted more classic Infinity Engine style games, but now, not so much.
I'm having trouble understanding this. Are you saying you generally don't like RtwP, but a few of your favorite games transcend that? If that's the case, I got the exact opposite experience from PoE. When they dropped the turn based mode, I tried it, I didn't like it, but I tried to give it a chance. And after a couple days (a few hours after work, not like weekend days), I just hated it. RtwP is what I want.
I reckon this is one of those things where people just want different things. With PoE there's a choice, which is hella cool, but RtwP doesn't work for multiplayer, so long, long ago I made my peace with not having it in BG3