My thing with this line of thinking is, Gale is part of your party. He's contributing to getting those items. Really he shouldn't need to be asking the way he does, he should be framing it as getting his own share of the items he's earned as partof the party. At least in my playthroughts, no matter my character's class, he comes in and fights with the party, he contributes to exploration, so as far as I'm concerned he's entitled to a share of the loot.
Also, unrelated to the above, but I think people are way too hard on Astarion's introduction, and that's as someone who doesn't really like Astarion. He tells you why he attacks you; he thinks that you're one of the thralls from the ship, there to attack him. That is to me, a perfectly reasonable justification. Sure some more brutal characters would take that as cause for a death sentence but I think any reasonably tolerant individual would be miffed but understand. I'm certain that most players would do the same thing if they saw someone they assumed to be an enemy.
And related to the poll itself, I'm not killing any members of the party unless it's really a kill or be killed situation. The only situation where I've ever killed a companion in a game is WotR with Camellia, and she turned out to be a straight-up serial killer.
My argument has always been that it doesn't matter what is reasonable, and what a real person would do in that same situation. It's an aggressive introduction to someone you're supposed to like, and spend hundreds of hours with. Combine that with the fact that I can't call out his obvious bullshit "Hey, there's a brain thing in the bushes!" (if i'm ONE OF THOSE BRAIN THINGS WHY WOULD I CARE?), and the only way to avoid having a knife to your throat like a rube is to fall for his ridiculous line. Combine that with him forcing himself on you at camp, no way to avoid that either, and he's gone. Every time.
I don't care if he's realistic, I care that he's introduced in a way that takes agency away from me.
