why is because multiplayer + choice = dev time... they ran out, its that simple
1 doesn't work in multiplayer
2 sort of already is a thing but they just say what they want and the talker can agree or not
3 in BG1 & BG2 the dev team gave you a party leader that did all the talking checks and that system worked well but Larian didn't pick that option for whatever reason


Luke Skywalker: I don't, I don't believe it.
Yoda: That is why you failed.