Not gonna read this entire thread, so I'll drop this here, even though someone must have mentioned it by now.
If min-maxing is fun then do it. We're talking about a computer game, not whether or not to donate a kidney. In D&D, I don't min-max because my focus in D&D is who my character is not what his stats and abilities are. I am building an open-ended story with my fellow players. In a computer game, I'm constrained by the limits of the game. I don't care who my character is because I'm interacting with AI, not people. It's fun, just a different kind of fun compared to pen and paper.
