Personally, I think having diversity in available relationships is fantastic, and that playersexuality is a pragmatic solution to maximising the benefit of work done on romances and giving players as much choice as possible when there are a limited number of available NPCs to romance. Certainly, there's nothing wrong in my book with having NPCs with specific sexualities, but unless it's intrinsic to their story or character in some way and/or there are lots of options, I don't see any good reason for it to be limited.
I also think it's a mistake to think of having a diverse set of relationship options as being a feature only for LGBT+ players. Personally I'm straight, but I appreciate the opportunity to roleplay characters with sexualities and genders, as well as ethics and opinions, different from my own.
And if anyone is being forced to kiss Gale in the weave scene then that is definitely a bug. Before that happens, I think there should be two options, first to say that you want to embrace any sort of intimacy at all, and then another option to select specifically a romantic (as opposed to antagonistic) intimacy.
And all of the above is entirely separate to my mind from the question of feeling that we are being harassed by our companions. It's not happened in my playthrough yet, but even if companions were aligned to my, or my character's, romantic and sexual preferences, I still wouldn't want to be pestered. And, as has been said, it feels as though there are bugs in the game that are leading companions to think some players have encouraged them when they haven't.
Oh, and I don't think everyone is doing very well at complying with my earlier request to discuss the topic of representations of sexuality in the game civilly and with sensitivity to the fact that the subject impacts on people's real lives. I'm now going to ask everyone to actively try to avoid sounding homophobic. If you don't think you can manage to discuss the topic of sexuality with respect and tolerance for everyone, then I recommend not discussing at all. I feel I've now said that enough, so no more warnings on this point.
I absolutely agree. I like player sexuality, otherwise I bet you, we female player were stuck in an awful Anomen-situation again. I'm not necessarily choose romances by my own preference either, since I play a role and want to see different stories.
I don't have the problem with companions hitting on me left and right either. I started the romance with SHadowheart (the first drinking scene), but I started it by asking her, if she thinks, there is more between us. Otherwise there is nothing going on. Astarion is friendly, despite having low approval, Gale is like my little halflings big brother, Wyll and Karlach are friendly too and Lae'zel is her typical charming self. I did the Weave scene with Gale, but did stop, when the game told me, that it will get more intimate. And he never referred to me as being in a relationship. So far, there is nothing for me to be creeped out about. I would hate it, if the companions were too pushy too. I hated it with the Dreamlover, which is luckily replaced with the Guardian, and I would hate it with companions. I do think, this has to be a bug, too. A friend of mine is trying desperately to romance Gale and despite having his approval high, she had no luck so far. And there are people complaining in another thread, that they can't romance anyone , the Minthara crowd seems to be totally out of luck for now, so I do think, that romance in this game might be bugged.
"We are all stories in the end. Just make it a good one."
