I am proceeding as a glacial pace, and it took me 40h to get to the point this scene was happening if I were the Dark Urge. If I were in the middle of a “Try to turn the Dark Urge into a good person” I would have restarted without a second thought (or respecced out of that Origin, if possible).
I am not necessarily saying what Larian did is necessarily wrong, but all the people who were hoping to do a redeeming Dark Urge playthrough are in for an incredibly rude awakening.