I think there is a grain of truth in OP's argument, I'm not sure how much of it is deliberate, or if there's really any political agenda behind it:
Lae'zel - female (primarily) Strength based class, frontliner - likes to get close and brutal
Karlach - female (primarily) Strength based class, frontliner - likes to get close and brutal
Minthara - female (primarily Strength based class, frontliner - likes to get close and brutal
Jaheira - female (half) Strength based class (Dexterity probably better) - likes to get close and brutal
Shadowheart - waifu material
Gale - male (primarily) non-Strength based spellcaster - sit back and pew pew. Gets in trouble with the dommy mommy that he simps so hard for and she literally tells him to kys.
Wyll - male (primarily) non-Strength based spellcaster - can pew pew but can fight close. Gets in trouble with the dommy mommy that he simps so hard for and she makes sure he gets punished.
Astarion - twink
Halsin - bear
Minsc - too late in the game
Had a good chuckle at this...but yea thats pretty much it. Why I just can't get seriously immersed into the game...I have to build an homicidal maniac and murder everyone to finally get some decent D&D immersion (half joking

) Thank god Larian had to common sense to add The Dark Urge. It feels like a "sorry guys, there ya go..." lol.
I am in a way really happy for all the ladies out there that get to play BG3; they have an amazing choice of ideal companions. The girls rocks, the useful guys stand low bowing to them.
Lots of companions to love for diversity too.
Halsin is pure fan service for ladies again

And on a not so positive note, lots of stuff to like for porn loving weirdos too...
Straight regular guys got shafted, not denying it.
But if BG3 can get more ladies playing D&D and cRPGs...really happy for that. My non-gamer wife is actually interested in the game...
