I think there is a grain of truth in OP's argument, I'm not sure how much of it is deliberate, or if there's really any political agenda behind it:
Lae'zel - female (primarily) Strength based class, frontliner - likes to get close and brutal
Karlach - female (primarily) Strength based class, frontliner - likes to get close and brutal
Minthara - female (primarily Strength based class, frontliner - likes to get close and brutal
Jaheira - female (half) Strength based class (Dexterity probably better) - likes to get close and brutal
Shadowheart - waifu material
Gale - male (primarily) non-Strength based spellcaster - sit back and pew pew. Gets in trouble with the dommy mommy that he simps so hard for and she literally tells him to kys.
Wyll - male (primarily) non-Strength based spellcaster - can pew pew but can fight close. Gets in trouble with the dommy mommy that he simps so hard for and she makes sure he gets punished.
Astarion - twink
Halsin - bear
Minsc - too late in the game
