I dont really know what are you doing people ...
My Dwarf had no problem at all, and we just reached City of Baldur's Gate ...

One kiss with Shadowheart (on second date) ...
Dance with Wyll ...
And watching night sky with Gale ...

Just tell them you are not interested in this way right when you feel like it could get into something biger ... it works!
Trust me, i tryed. laugh

I still dont understand why cant we change Race for our hirelings. frown
Lets us play Githyanki as racist as they trully are! frown