I can't, and am not going to try to, stand turn-based (with an exception for the "real-time turn-based" used in the FF games), and that is that. I do not need minutes after minutes to click an "attack" button, thanks. Real-time with a pause option prevails any time, any day.
I deeply hate Fallout series, Arcanum, and PoRII for this. I don't care how good the rest of the game is; if I have to suffer sucky combat and have no way to avoid it, the game's off my harddrive.