I assumed that the golden paladin was just the guardian, since their armor looked golden to me. Also Daisy wasn't always idealised. She came to astarion as Cazador, which doesn't match the seductive angle so we'll. It's somethingthat makes me suspect they did not in fact have a firm grasp of Daisy to begin with. The rumor that we were supposed to eventually get a choice to stay with our daisy comes off as weird when you consider that Astarion's appeared as his abuser and ours appeared as the shaddiest of seducers.